Meaning
在日常生活中,我們常常面臨需要作決定的情況,而這些決定可能涉及到個人價值觀、利益或情感。當這些因素互相衝突時,我們就會感到矛盾。例如,你可能會說:「I'm conflicted about taking the new job because it offers a higher salary, but I love my current team.」這表示你對於是否接受新工作感到矛盾,因為雖然新工作薪水更高,但你又很喜歡現在的同事。
這個表達不僅適用於重大決策,也可以用在較小的日常選擇中,例如選擇看哪部電影或選擇去哪間餐廳用餐。無論大小,當你心中有不同的聲音在拉扯時,就可以用「I'm conflicted about」來描述你的感受。
Today's Sentences
- I’m conflicted about this job.
- I’m conflicted about fixing this car.
- I’m conflicted about this relationship.
- I’m conflicted about painting this wall.
- I’m conflicted about having more kids.
- Writer's Note
01
I’m conflicted about this job.
Situation 1
How is everything going?
All is good except I’m conflicted about this job.
Why?
I love the people I work with but this new job offer is a great opportunity.
Situation 2
I’m conflicted about this job.
What’s the problem?
問題是什麼?
On one hand, I want to quit but on the other hand, I need the money.
Well, realistically it doesn’t sound like a good idea to quit.
Maybe you could look for other jobs in the meantime.
或許您可以同時尋找其他工作機會。
02
I’m conflicted about fixing this car.
Situation 1
Sorry, I’m late.
No need to apologize.
Is everything okay?
一切都還好嗎?
No, it’s a wreck.
I’m conflicted about fixing this car.
我對於修這輛車感到很矛盾。
If it costs more to fix than I think you should use the money towards a new one.
Situation 2
You’re going to need some major repairs done this time around.
I’m conflicted about fixing this car.
I understand.
But it’s gonna cost you a few thousand dollars.
但是這會花費你幾千美元。
Is it worth it?
I think I might just buy a new car.
我想我可能會買一輛新車。
03
I’m conflicted about this relationship.
Situation 1
So how are things with you lately?
Things are okay.
Although, I’m conflicted about this relationship.
不過,我對這段關係感到矛盾。
Why?
Did something happen?
發生了什麼事?
It’s not going anywhere.
I want to get married but it doesn’t seem like he wants to.
我想結婚,但他似乎不想。
Situation 2
I’m conflicted about this relationship.
Why, did I do something to make you angry?
No, you didn’t.
But I feel like we’re not on the same page.
但我覺得我們的想法不一致。
Look, I’m trying my best to accommodate your needs and mine.
04
I’m conflicted about painting this wall.
Situation 1
I feel like this room needs a change.
What’s wrong with this room?
It needs a kick.
I’m conflicted about painting this wall.
我對於要不要粉刷這面牆感到矛盾。
You do this every spring.
What color do you feel like painting it now?
您現在想把它塗成什麼顏色呢?
Situation 2
What’s with all the paint cans?
I’m conflicted about painting this wall.
Should it be this warm Toffee color?
Or this neutral Clay color.
應該選擇這個溫暖的Toffee色嗎?
還是這個中性的Clay色呢。
I think we should take a moment to think about this.
We’ve colored the walls twice already.
我們已經把牆壁漆了兩次。
But I really want to change the wall color.
05
I’m conflicted about having more kids.
Situation 1
You have such a beautiful family.
Thank you.
But I’m conflicted about having more kids.
但我對於是否要再生孩子感到很矛盾。
If you love kids, I think it’s worth a shot.
What scares me is how long it takes for kids to be independent.
Situation 2
I’m conflicted about having more kids.
There’s no rule that you have to have kids anyways.
You’re right.
I should just go with the flow?
我應該順其自然嗎?
Of course.
Let life take its course and see where it takes you!
讓生活順其自然,看看它會帶你到哪裡!
Writer's Note
Being "conflicted" about something has the same meaning as being "torn up". Torn is a more commonly used expression "torn between two things" which means the person feels equally positive and negative toward the choice they are faced with.
Try to replace the word "conflicted" with "torn up". You will see that they're interchangeable without changing the meaning. Having a bank of words that you can use on hand makes you a better listener and better speaker.
Here are a few examples for more practice.
- I'm conflicted about my family. 👉 I'm torn up about my family.
- I'm conflicted about my weight gain. 👉 I'm torn up about my weight gain.
- I'm conflicted with my career change. 👉 I'm torn up about my career change.
- I'm conflicted with my divorce. 👉 I'm torn up about my divorce.
我對我的家庭感到矛盾。👉 我對我的家庭感到撕裂。
我對於自己的體重增加感到心煩意亂。
👉 我對於我的職業變動感到很掙扎。
我對我的離婚感到矛盾。👉 我對我的離婚感到很糾結。
Now let's explore 'torn between two things'.
- I'm torn between staying in this city or moving to a new one.
- I'm torn between staying in this marriage or getting a divorce.
- I'm torn between buying this black dress or this red one.
- I'm torn between ordering the baked salmon or the peppered steak.